Touch is the first sense we acquire, and it is a building block for our relationships. When you don’t have a relationship, it’s the one thing that goes missing from your life that you don’t even realize is gone until it comes back again in one form or another.
Everyone knows I am an extremely affectionate person. I greet my friends and family with hugs and kisses and I constantly place my hand on someones shoulder, arm or leg if I am talking with them. It’s important to me to be able to touch someone without it being weird or creepy or worse – sexual harassment! Because I am so affectionate in my day-to-day encounters with those I love, I didn’t even realize I missed being touched until last night.
I had booked a facial with my Esthetician whom I have known for years and my favourite part of the facial is the 20 minute face and upper chest massage that they do. During those quiet 20 minutes I was so relaxed and was just enjoying being touched. Having someone rub my arms and touch my face were peaceful and I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of it.
Think of it – I have been sick for six weeks! When you are a child and you are sick, your mom or dad snuggles you and cuddles you to make you feel better. When you are an adult and are sick, you have a partner who can snuggle or cuddle you. I have had no one. I lie on the couch, isolated and alone – well to be honest Simba has been obsessed with me since the day I got him and even more so when I am sick! So to have Bessie rub my temples, my head, my shoulders, and my neck felt so good I could have cried.
It’s amazing what you don’t even know you miss until randomly you get it again. Never have I once thought to myself these past few years of being single that I have missed human touch and affection, but a nice massage from someone I trust and BOOM it hits me like a ton of bricks.
Most of you won’t understand. It’s not a sexual touch that I miss (well, maybe) but a personal one. Those of you with children or spouses will have no clue as to what I am talking about or even fully understand; and while I am still not feeling well, for a brief 20 minutes I was utterly and completely at peace.
Thanks to Bessie for that