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Cottage living, nothing beats it.  Every summer with Kim and her family, the sites, the sounds and smells are so familiar to me now I can’t imagine a life without them.

On Saturday’s boat ride, coming back from Jeff’s friends cottage where Kim, Meaghan and I had no luck at fishing, Mya, (Kims daughter) sat in my lap for about ten minutes (which never happens – she is a mama’s girl at heart).

Her blond curls were tickling my nose from the cold wind and she was wrapped up tight in a towel around her puffy blue life jacket.  Her head was resting against my chest and I was wondering if she would fall asleep again as she always falls asleep on boat rides! She was telling me stories and pointing at all of the Canadian flags as we sped by.  I gently pressed my lips against her head and closed my eyes for just a moment and imagined when my own sweet boy or girl would be placed in my lap enjoying their new life in Canada at the cottage.  It will be then that the sites and sounds and smells will change – everything will be seen through new eyes – through the eyes of my child.

Mya is around the age my own child will be so having her be so willing to spend her time with me just makes me feel like a kid in a candy store!  I smile a bit brighter and the sadness and aching of not having my own child eases a little, knowing I will have a future as a mother and am right now getting to build my relationships with my extended family and their children.

For the rest of this week, I will hold tightly to the memory of those sweet curls blowing across my face and the warmth her tiny little soul provided me – even if it was only for ten minutes.

Love

Nicole

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Happy Birthday Canada

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Because I work for the City, I am at work today, which means no long weekend for me. Many of my friends who work for private companies are off enjoying a 4-day long weekend and I am working. It’s okay. I am actually not that mad. I am working which means not only do I have a job, but I have a city job which is a great thing to treasure so the fact that I am working today (while I may not be thrilled) is okay in my books.

However, don’t feel to bad for me, because I did take off last Friday so I could have a 3-day weekend and also so I could enjoy my NEW COTTAGE! I know it’s crazy, I wanted a house – bought one in four days. I wanted a cottage, bought one in a week. When I want something I get it…almost always. Thankfully with no regrets!

Kim and I headed up to the cottage with her two kids Thursday night to officially open our new buy and thankfully traffic really wasn’t *that* bad. It was manageable and I was fine because Kim drove, with Simba sleeping up front and me in the back with her four-year old and three-month old while the cat was whining away in the very back with all of our stuff. The cottage is just outside Peterborough off highway 7 past Havelock, ON. It’s a beautiful resort on Lake Seymour. I quickly settled in unpacking and getting me (and Simba) situated. The four of us spent Thursday night and all day Friday getting used to our new surroundings and just enjoying our time off away from home.

The rest of the weekend was spent at the lake, pool and of course a Saturday night fire thanks to Kim’s hubby who finally joined us on Friday night after baseball.

Why did I get this cottage you ask? I mean I am a city girl, always have been. Why would I want to spend a majority of my summer up north being eaten alive by pesky mosquitoes and sweating away with no cable to occupy my time? I did it because I am thinking of my future family. Because one day I will have a family of my own and one of my favorite memories as a child is going up north to my Aunt’s trailer and spending random weeks or weekends in Bobcaygeon, outside by the lake with my friends. I want a place where I can go and let the kids run “somewhat” free, where they can meet new people and have something to look forward to on their summer vacations from school. Who better to buy a cottage with then one of your best friends who has a family whom you adore!? Kim and her family were the perfect choice. It was a decision I can’t see me regretting.

One day my children will thank me for this opportunity I have given them and if there is a boyfriend involved in that process than I am sure he will also be grateful and depending on whom he is, if he doesn’t’ like cottage life, he can stay home cause I am quite happy with the peace and quiet the cottage brings to me.

So I may not have been able to celebrate Canada all weekend long like some folks do, but I got to celebrate it in a very Canadian way – up north, with friends outside!

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Tonight after work I will spend the evening and all of tomorrow with Eharmony and then head over to get to know my neighbours better by accepting their invite to a bbq. I have a lot of things to do this summer and a lot of people I want and need to spend time with, but that’s what summer is for no? I’ve put off the insemination until after my surgery in September…by then I will have a better idea of where Eharmony and I stand and be on a better, healthier path to hopefully create a viable pregnancy!

Stay tuned…

Love

Nicole

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The most wonderful weekend of the year

For the past 6-7 years I have fallen completely, absolutely in love with one weekend.  Now as a Canadian you would think it is Canada day weekend – nope, sorry Canada!!  It’s actually the American Thanksgiving…(please don’t shun me)  Why you ask…is it the turkey…nope!  The family get togethers…nope!

 

IT’S THE BLACK FRIDAY SHOPPING

 

My ex and I started this shopping tradition in Buffalo NY when we first started dating and every year since – even after we broke up (I just changed my shopping partner in crime) – I have continued this amazing tradition! 

On Thursday morning, my sister-in-law Tammy and I drove up to Grove City, PA where we have gone the past two years.  Singing to the XM radio channel 90’s on 9, we headed out on the road, got through the border with no problems and even made it through the crazy Erie PA snow belt where the snow threatened to slow us down (the snow needs to realize we are ladies on a mission). 

Four and a half hours later we made it to our hotel safe and sound, checking in and crashing into our rooms with a plan! 

We drove over to the Subway down the street (the only place open on Thanksgiving day before the shops open).  Oh ya – it’s in a gas station…total class!  After we grabbed our food, we drove across the street, parked the car in the outlet parking lot and walked the 15 minutes back to our hotel, grateful the weather held up and it wasn’t so cold or windy.  

Getting back to our warm room, we ate and passed out cold for a couple of hours hoping to encourage our bodies to function throughout the night while we shopped! 

When we woke up, we realized Maid in Manhattan was on TV, so we spent the night watching that and then headed out for our Shopping Bonanza!  

At 11:15 we made it to the outlets by shuttle and began what was to be an epic trip of massive shopping proportions!  We always have a plan and we always execute it perfectly!  That’s what over 6 years of doing this has done…made me a Black Friday shopping expert!  

We completed our first round of shopping around 6:00 am, after feeling a bit whacked out and crazy racing back to the hotel before the sun rose.  After lugging in our purchases we passed out cold again, but only for a few hours.  Breakfast at the Eat and Park is delicious and was calling out our names.  In Canada, you are lucky to get a huge plate of food and refillable coffee for $12-$20.  At the E&P – $6.00!!  I had Chocolate chip pancakes with whipped butter and syrup and three sausage patties on the side with two coffees for $6.21.  MY GOD THANK YOU!!  We were beginning to feel human again! 

Heading back to the hotel we organized our bags from the night before and figured out what was left to buy.  The outlets were open to nine so around 4 we went back, shopped again and went back to the E&P for dinner. 

Dinner was almost as scrumptous as breakfast was.  I had a baked shrimp parmesan pasta dish with garlic bread and coke.  Tammy and I shared a Molten Lava Cake and we went back to our hotel full and exhausted, barely able to keep our eyes open to watch the Harry Potter marathon that was playing.  We slept…almost 10 hours…it was great. 

The next day, after checking out and heading back to the E&P for another breakfast (where chocolate chip pancakes and hash browns were ordered and devoured) we drove the 45 minutes to Pittsburgh where we went to my favourite store in the whole wide world… 

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Yep it was time to shoe shop!  I bought four pairs while my sister slid in with three!  We found the Wal-Mart Super store down the street and then started the five-hour trek back to Toronto.  Of course we had to go through the border…always a *fun* experience. 

We managed to pull into my driveway close to 8:00 at night which was great and I was able to arrange my purchases and presents and start a load of laundry, climbing into bed around 10:00 excited to pick up my dog from my friend’s place the next morning! 

This may sound like three days of torture to some of you…I am sure it is for certain people.  But three days with my favourite person, shopping and eating is a small pleasure I benefit from every year and will continue to do so as often as I can!

Love

Nicole