That is my age.  34.  I am not where I thought (knew) I’d be at 34, but honestly, who cares anymore?  I am where I am.  I haven’t celebrated my birthday, other than a dinner or two, in years because getting older wasn’t something I cared about.  This year though, this year, I celebrated. I got over myself and allowed people to make me feel special!

I decided I wanted to go out and have a party.  I have a large group of friends that don’t know each other so having a party seemed to be the only way to see all of my friends at one time.

I posted the invite back in early December to Facebook because of course there is no other quick way to talk to all of my friends at once and immediately started seeing acceptances and RSVP’s.  I was happy!  I called the Jukebox Live in Pickering to reserve a booth so my friends would have a place to sit and drink if they didn’t want to dance and quickly informed my friends of the date and time!

I used to think I wouldn’t see all my friends in one place except at my wedding (which didn’t happen) or maybe a baby shower for the females (which hasn’t yet happened) so for so many of my loved ones to be in one place on MY birthday was just overwhelming.

My best friend, whom I haven’t really hung out with since I moved back in March, was going to spend the night with her boyfriend so I was even happier knowing I had more time with her then just the party.

My friends, who had come back from Cuba the day before, drove us there and at least I knew that four of my friends would be around to have fun with!  Slowly more and more strolled in until I had 21 of my closest friends surrounding me, dancing, drinking, talking, taking pictures and (hopefully) having fun!

The Jukebox is a place I have been to before. It’s in Pickering and is the closest thing to a “club” that Durham has.  It’s located right at Liverpool and Hwy 2 and has FREE parking (one thing I love about Durham is so much free parking)!  For me, it meant a quick cab ride home and a place where I could rest my feet, knowing full well I would not be in dancing shoes!  Our server Sonia was great (and busy) and the DJ played a pretty good mix of 90’s to current day top 40 so the dance floor was packed and with 21 people so was my booth!

The shots and drinks were flowing and I got some amazing news from one of my friends (that I cannot yet share on here) that just was the cherry on top of an amazing night!

Of course the next day my feet and head were pounding and sore, and having stayed up WAY past my bedtime, I was exhausted, but it was 100% worth it.  I felt so loved and supported, knowing my friends ARE my family.  As my blood line shrinks, my chosen few, keep me afloat, keep me smiling when all I want to do is cry and keep me laughing when all I want to do is scream.

Thank you friends, thank you for being there for me as I turned 34.  Thank you for taking time out of your busy lives to make me feel so amazing and so loved!

I truly am blessed.




Because I’m not a mother…

Because I am not a mother I have a lot of free time on my hands to be a great (surrogate) aunt to lots of little ones and this past weekend was no exception!

My heart and soul is always with Julia, my beautiful five-year old whose parents know I will always and forever treat her like my own; she made getting through my fathers funeral a little more bearable because she was there.  I don’t get to spend nearly as much time with her as I would like and now that I have moved out to Ajax the time between our visits has gotten longer, but she is NEVER far from my thoughts and ALWAYS in my heart.  We have an insane connection that no one can understand and I am just so glad her mom and dad respect and accept it!  I think they love it actually cause they aren’t super close to family so I am also like a little sister to them!

Anyway, this weekend, on Sunday I finally had plans to spend the day with her family and we made up for lost time!  We also planned a flower party she wants to have with her little friends this summer.  Thank you to Pinterest for making this party planning possible!  Julia, her mom and I planned everything and then advised her dad (who was the original genius behind the idea, but who is a little better at delegating than planning) who gave it the green light and now I know I will get to see my little muffin top (cause muffin tops are the best part of the muffin) next month too!

Yesterday I was blessed to spend time with both of my friend Kims kids because her oldest (who’s 4) had a t-ball game and since Yoga was cancelled due to the holiday I got to attend.  I also got to snuggle and feed her youngest (2 months) because Kim was helping with the t-ball game!  So all in all last night was a GREAT night!

I spent time with their family after the game to watch fireworks too and there was so many little kiddies around and really just sitting around talking to Kim topped off a weekend high!

This weekend would have been a lot different had I had a newborn baby to take care of.  Please don’t get me wrong, I still want my own child, more now than ever, but while I am not pregnant and have no responsibility but to myself and Simba, I am going to ensure I get as much “auntie” time with the little ones as possible…




I can plan a babyshower dammit!

Supposedly some women have been telling me you cannot plan your own baby shower when it’s time.

Insert: yes I am WELL aware I am not even pregnant yet

However, I feel like as it is my baby shower and I only will get one most likely – I should be able to have things my way, thus I can plan it, or at least help plan it!! I am not going to host it – that would be ridiculous.  That’s my sister, mom, bff’s or co-workers job. 

My friend and colleague, Sarah, introduced me to this amazing website last week – you may have heard of it…pinterest???  LOL…Yes I am also WELL aware that Pinterest is not new and most women have not only heard of this site – they are on it, pinning things left, right and center!

I have been on pinterest everyday since, pinning to boards for different bedrooms in my non-existent house, christmas decorations for the year I eventually want to get really into the holiday’s again and baby shower ideas, games, themes etc for the one day I, as a mom-to-be, gets celebrated!

  Fun Baby Shower Game The Original Pin the by PintheSpermontheEgg 

Doesn’t this game look like fun – pin the sperm on the egg – and it’s totally appropriate given how I am chosing to get preggo!

Pink or white chocolate w/ sprinkles! Or milk chocolate w/ pink sprinkles.

These just look delicious and I wanted them to eat now – however they will work at a shower too – although blue icing if Koko is a boy!

Expecting Parents!  Let's Polish Up for Our Children. Register on Our Official Site. #let'sInvest www.stateoftheblackparent.org Nail Polish Baby Shower Favors - what a cute (and. fashionable) idea! Easy to color coordinate, too.Baby shower. I love this idea.  I could see Jenna doing this ;) 

What cute favours!!

Baby Shower Game Ideas (14 Pics) 

A creative game that requires no effort – just my style!!

What a creative way to serve drinks to your baby shower guests! Instead of regular cups, use baby bottles & just remove the rubber tops! What's great about this idea is that the mother-to-be can use the bottles after the little one actually arrives! 

Watching my friends drink from baby bottles will have me in stitches and that day it is all about me and Koko – if I am happy, Koko is happy!  See, I need to be involved in the planning!!

What’s so hard to understand??